Life Together
If you’ve formalized your relationship with your RoseBrides.com match and have moved to his country, you have a lot to look forward to. Yes, there will be challenges in adjusting to the cultural norms in your new country. No doubt you will miss family and friends, and if you spend a lot of time at home you may get restless. You may have felt very excited when you first arrived but are beginning to feel homesick and bored.
All of this is entirely normal and often these feelings arise with other couples who did not meet online. Adjustment is part of the process leading to a successful and happy relationship. Do not hesitate to ask your mate for a bit of help in the beginning. Keeping the following in mind will also help you get used to your new way of life:
Language skills
Even if you speak the local language well, some idioms and vocabulary might be new to you. There is always room for improvement, so enroll in a language course to improve your skills. If there are no convenient classes nearby, you can always take an online course or buy language-learning software. The benefit of going to a class outside the home is that it’s also a way to make new friends who also may be transitioning from a different country.
Learn the little things
Learn how to do everyday tasks around the house and neighborhood such as getting to the store, purchasing methods, public transportation, using household appliances, town laws and ordinances, how much to tip at a service establishment like a restaurant or salon – the list goes on and on. Understanding these basics of your environment will help speed your adjustment.
Stay connected
Probably the hardest part of leaving home was leaving behind your friends and family. The good news is nowadays it’s really easy to keep in touch with everyone. Chatting regularly by phone or online can help you feel less isolated. Use Skype or e-mail to keep communication flowing. If your family members don’t have access to a computer, there are many affordable calling plans and calling cards available. Try to visit your home country once a year if possible. While you may make new friends in your new country, it’s important to stay connected to people from home.
Find a job
Ideally you and your mate have discussed the issue of your working inside or outside the home much earlier in your relationship. If you both agree you will work outside the home, find a job that suits your skills and interests. If you aren’t ready for a job, volunteering is a great way to find fulfillment and meet people with similar interests.
Stay occupied
Boredom is your enemy. Join a group or organization based on a hobby or interest; meeting new people with similar interests will help you connect. You might also seek out people with backgrounds similar to yours who could share stories and offer advice.
It’s not healthy to be at home all day while you husband is at work. Get out of the house and explore your new town. Try to make new friends and get to know your husband’s family and friends and make plans with them. Now could be the time to learn how to drive if you don’t yet know. If you do drive, make sure you have a valid license; many foreign driver licenses can be used for a limited time only.
Share your problems
Communication is key to a healthy relationship and you should feel comfortable talking to your mate when something is bothering you. If you need your husband’s help, simply ask him. He isn’t a mind reader and may not realize there’s something wrong unless you speak up. This will make a big difference as you both strive to adjust to your new relationship.